BIRTH ORDER AND GENDER

Studies have revealed that first-born and only children are usually more responsible and confident, and that the youngest in family tends to be slightly selfish but also more relaxed. It is also true that at the same age, girls tend to be more assured and graceful, assuming that most modern parents bring up boys and girls as equals. But researchers have found that parents do discriminate between children of same sex or of different sexes and that has an impact on the child’s self-image and personality. The first-born is invariable treated with greater strictness, and with greater expectations. Many parents have confided in me that if they had a second chance they would not commit the same mistakes in bringing up their first-born. Parental strictness and expectations may result in their first-born being more responsible but sometimes withdrawn. The second or the youngest is often pampered and since the parental economic position and attitudes have changed the child is brought up more amicable, resulting in a personality which is more demanding and which possesses greater self esteem. Whit a single child, either of the two parallel personality types may emerge-self –assured and contented or lonely and seeking company. In India, girls are often treated differently. They receive frequent messages that they should be submissive and willing to sacrifice. Most mothers love their daughters as much as they do the sons but are more strict and controlling with girls. Fathers on the other hand are more soft and warm towards their daughters than towards their sons.